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You should date a girl who reads, or better yet, date a girl who writes. :) *repost :D

12 Sep

You should date a girl who reads, or better yet, date a girl who writes. 🙂

“Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

 

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

 

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

 

Buy her another cup of coffee.

 

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

 

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

 

She has to give it a shot somehow.

 

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

 

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

 

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilightseries.

 

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

 

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

 

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

 

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

 

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”

 

– Rosemary Urquico (via kblitz)

 

 (Posted in Mary Angilu Bellodo’s Note in Facebook on Friday, April 1, 2011 at 7:37am)

Learn To Love Yourself First :)

12 Sep


            Learning to love your own self is a hard task. Start this by making a decision of what you want to have in your life. Beginning to learn to love yourself, it can be a difficult journey but completely worth it. You should just accept that you are the only one who is responsible for the results of your experiences in your life. So here are some steps on how to love yourself more. I believe this can be helpful.

  • First, honor yourself. Realize that you are a unique person. Just be yourself because that’s what makes everyone different. Trust your self-decisions and instincts and don’t let others hold you back or decide for you but it’s also good to listen every once in a while.
  • Second, respect and accept yourself. Respecting and accepting yourself is the way of understanding that everyone is unique. It means knowing your good and bad qualities, your mistakes and achievements, your weaknesses and talents, and flaws. You will find that life becomes much less of a burden.
  • Third, forget what others think of you.  Others are there just to guide you, not to decide for you. Living in fear of what will people will say or think of you is difficult. You will lose your confidence and you won’t be able to show the best you got.
  • Fourth, forgive yourself and others. Learn to forgive when there’s a problem that happened. Remember that everyone makes mistakes including you.
  • Fifth, let go of your worries. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worries. Instead of worrying, spend your time thinking about what you can do to help yourself and others. Stop worrying, just do your best and God will do the rest. Things will come if it’s meant to be.
  • Sixth, be kind and positive at all times. Start thinking positive about yourself, the love you have for yourself will grow. Always praise yourself every day. Think of the development that you have/need and motivate yourself to improve it more.
  • Seventh, acknowledge your efforts. It’s not always about winning or having success in everything that you do. Sometimes, you will lose or fail. You have to accept it. Often times, it is the effort that counts. Acknowledge that you’ve done your best, even if you have failed to it.
  • Eighth, set or plan your goals. Nurture your dreams. Start thinking and deciding on what you really want. Start planning. It is a better start to a bright future.
  • Ninth, have fun. Put some fun into your life. Life is meant to be enjoyable. Don’t take life too seriously. Always remember that you should live your life to the fullest.
  • Tenth, be thankful. Be thankful for all the gifts and blessings you have. Take care of yourself and others.
  • And lastly, live every day like it’s your last! Live to your present life. The past is all about the experiences that we had learned. Just enjoy yourself. Love! Play!  Always keep smiling!

                         Learning to love yourself can be one of the most important things that you do for yourself in your life. With work and persistence, you can learn to have a stronger love and relationship with yourself than ever before. Life is too short to be miserable. Just go have fun and just go with the flow. Try not to worry. With awareness, the problems will get lighter each day. Setting goals and having dreams are the start of our bright future. Keep thinking right and watch your actions. Nothing is impossible if you are determined! Just keep loving and smiling!

– DORA 🙂