Friendship is a part of each individual’s life. Friendship is also an important part of life of preadolescents (Britannica). We got to know a person for us to build a better relationship among them. But before we do that we should know how friendship works and ask things that explain what really a friendship means. Why is it important for us to be friends with others? What values shows a true friendship? What does is it gives you as an individual? When is the time that we need a friend? Does friendship only needs to be given to the right person? And how can friendship helps you to be a better person?

It is important for every individual to be friends with other people so that they can have someone who will accompany them in some situation. Friendship is a relationship that can be treasure and can help you gain trust from other people.

According to Wikipedia.org, there are values found in friendship:

• The tendency to desire what is best for the other,
•  sympathy and empathy,
• honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one’s counterpart,
•  mutual understanding and compassion;
•  ability to go to each other for emotional support,
• enjoyment of each others company,
• trust in one another,
• positive reciprocity — a relationship is based on equal give and take between the two parties,
• the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings and make mistakes without fear of judgment and
• of course it is very important to have honesty, trust, sympathy, respect and helpfulness in friendship.

Friends can help you when you know that you can’t do something by yourself but those people are the ones who are willing to have a long-lasting friendship with you. Friendship helps you to have someone who will motivate you in your life, who can help in making you a better person and it gives you the assurance that there’s always someone that you can rely on to. But is there a right time to have a friend? , having a friend doesn’t need the right time, one should not find friend because they just need something or just want to take it for granted. You can find friends and have them if you feel that you’re alone because they can be the one who can cheer you up and give some colors into your life. But you should remember that you need to choose friends that can make you happy, the one that you can trust and may lead you to a right path. Because a right and healthy friendship among other people can give you chance to have someone whom you can ask, especially if you need another perspective in making big decisions in your life or even some flaws of yours that you need to be change in order to become a better person.

A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out (Walter Winchell). It just shows that a real friend will never leave you. They are the one you can run into in difficult times.

Family

Why do we need our family?

          Having a family is a gift that should be treasured and should be given an importance. First of all what is family? Why do we need our family? What are their roles in our life that influences us? What does a family really mean at all? What will happen if they fail to do their part in strengthening their family relationship?

         Family is a group of people, living together or in close contact, taking care of one another and providing guidance for their dependent members. As Filipino family we are described being basically nuclear but functionally extended. This means that most families consist of the parents and their children, but there is recognition and respect for the ties between the nuclear family and the whole network of relatives from both sides of the family (Patterson 1995). Eventually our family is important on the way God had given them to us, to love and care for us. We need a family to become a better person who knows how to be discipline in every ways. Our family was the ones who teach us to learn the things we need to face our future live full of battle in reality. In a family, the place where they dwell is called “Home” (Dorothy Rogers). Family played an important role in human development, especially on the children within the family. The parent should do their responsibilities to their child/children properly. Every action the parents will do maybe imitated by their children. Parents were the person who guides, love and supports their children as a dependent members of the family.

        Family stands an important role in the society, in which it serves as link between the individual and larger society (Leopando, 1999). The parents were the first person who will be showing the good examples to their children. Parents should do their obligation and responsibilities to strengthen and made their family a perfect family. Family is very important because you can easily get opened- up with them because they will make sure one will get the comfort they give. Family is important because even though the world falls down on you they are the only people who can comfort and would really love you the most. We should value our family because they are the only unique God given to us. We should consider how to values each and every one family members within a family. If a family would fail to do their responsibilities there is a tendency that a good relationship may shift directly to bad. That’s why we should love our parents, siblings and ourselves in considering how we can strengthen one’s relationship. Having a happy family is one of the envious things in this world. Complete and happy family would simply mean that a relationship where all good and they keep on strengthen it.

      We should all remember that family is a gift from God. We were all lucky to have a good family. Try strengthening your love on your family and loving one another to stay a good and forever relationship and we should give importance to our family by showing through acts or obeying through words. We should value and treasure our family because in the end they will be our greatest best friend whenever we needed them. “ the family that prays together stays together” (Family Rosary crusade) and remember to ask guidance to our GOD almighty.

Happiness! :D

What is the true meaning of happiness in one’s life?

The Essence of Happiness

            Happiness is one of the most important aspects in your life. All of us want to be happy but what is the true essence of happiness? If you are happy then you are contented with what you have. Being happy is a choice and in order to do that you must find your purpose in life and search for your true happiness.

Your ability to achieve your own happiness is the key measure of your success. The decisions we make play a major role in our goal to our happiness. The key to happiness is to dedicate yourself to the development of your talents and abilities by doing what you love to do, and doing it better. As Laurie Harley of Aardvark Writing said, Happiness is achieved by loving yourself first. You should discover who you are. Once you know what you like, you’ll have a better idea of how to love yourself more.  Cyrano of Rostand’s play said “I am what I am because early in life I decided that I would please at least myself in all things.” Your happiness depends upon your ability to please yourself in all things. No one can define happiness for you, only you know what makes you happy. Happiness is a choice, it’s up to you. The best way to assure the happiness of others is to be happy in yourself and then to share your happiness with the people around you.

“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.” – Morrie (Tuesdays with Morrie). Devote yourself on things that you can think that makes you happy. Don’t take for granted the things that matters most. Don’t waste the life that God has given to you. Search for your happiness and love the people that are part in your life. Nothing in this world is permanent. Value the people who are always there for you. To be truly happy, you must learn how to sacrifice. We all have experience or will be experiencing the darkest times but you should be brave to face it. Learn to let go and accept things. Keep in mind that there will be great things coming in your way. Just be yourself and learn to love wholeheartedly.

These are the essence of true happiness. Learning how to be open-minded, love others, love yourself, sacrifice and letting things go. You are in charge of your own life and your own happiness. Keep in mind that somehow happiness is on its way to your life, just learn to appreciate. Let go of your fears. Enjoy life. Love all the people around you. Make good relationships to others. Uncover the real you. Yourself is the key for the happiness.  🙂

 

 

 

The Way I do :’) :’>

Never thought that I could love you, the way I DO. ♥ :”>

Just wanna share this song that I played lot of times. ❤

– dora 🙂

 

HOW TO COURT SOMEONE YOU KNOW FOR A LONG TIME

                Every people have their right to love and to express it to someone, but what if you’re in love with someone you’d known for a long time? Would you sacrifice your friendship to have a relationship? If you’re about to make your first move, here are some tips to do it.

               First try to talk to her and ask her if you two can go outside and hang out. In that way she’ll be more comfortable and easy to approach if you’re going to say something. Ask her if she has a boyfriend so after you tell her, you will not self-destruct. Let her feel that she is special and important to you so she won’t be shocked when you tell her that you like her.

                 After you have set everything go talk to her when you two are alone to make you both comfortable. Ask her if you can court her and let her know that you’re serious to do what she wants and you will always be beside her.

                  A funny guy always makes a women’s heart beat. In my opinion every person loving and secretly keeping it should tell the person they want that they like them because if you’re going to keep it all by yourself, you’re going to regret it soon.

 

                

*Building a Life-long Friendship

“Who finds a faithful friend, finds a treasure”. A faithful friend is one of the key to have a long lasting friendship. They are one of the people who are always there to make you smile, laugh and feel better. They can inspire you and never let you sits on a corner feeling left behind among others. But there are more things that you need to know in order to achieve a life-long friendship. Here are some of them.

•  First, find someone or even a group of people that you can easily be with and would make you feel comfortable and carefree. Just remember to choose people that you want to get along with, wisely. It’s better to have friends that will lift you up instead of bringing you down.
• Second, spend more time with those people to know them well. Know their personalities, likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses.
• Next, if you find your personalities compatible with each other then that’s the time that you should open up or share something about yourself. But if they have the opposite personalities with yours, don’t give up easily. Try to know them better, may be you can still get along with them even if you don’t have the same personalities, likes and others.
• After some time, and you already have a smooth-sailing friendship then all you need to do is maintain it. If you can avoid having quarrels or misunderstanding, that’s good. Always listen to their explanations so you can understand them. Show respect to your friends, for you to earn their trust, acceptance and their respect for you also. Then, don’t forget to show them that you give importance to your relationship. Do something special to your friends or just spend your time bonding together. There are lots of things to do. You better try to do things that are unforgettable and will give you a lot of memories to reminisce after a year and so.
• Next, avoid keeping secrets with each other but don’t forget to consider their privacy.  There are things that are too confidential for you to know.
• Another one is you shouldn’t take advantage of your friends because it could destroy the friendship that you’ve already built. And lastly, you should be transparent to each other. Let them know your feelings. There are things that are too hard for us to tell than showing it.
• And of course, accept if they notice something wrong in you because it is also for your own good. Remember that a real friend wants you to be a better individual than the other way around.

            These are some of the things that you should do or consider to make your friendship longer. Always remember that faithfulness is one of the most important things in friendship, that’s why it should always be there in order to have the long-lasting friendship that we want.

[ love B ]

You should date a girl who reads, or better yet, date a girl who writes. :) *repost :D

You should date a girl who reads, or better yet, date a girl who writes. 🙂

“Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

 

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

 

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

 

Buy her another cup of coffee.

 

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

 

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

 

She has to give it a shot somehow.

 

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

 

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

 

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilightseries.

 

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

 

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

 

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

 

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

 

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”

 

– Rosemary Urquico (via kblitz)

 

 (Posted in Mary Angilu Bellodo’s Note in Facebook on Friday, April 1, 2011 at 7:37am)

Tips To Avoid Misunderstandings and Quarrels in a Family

Having a family is a gift that should be treasured and should be given importance. Everyone wants a complete family, which lives in a peaceful and harmonic life. No one wants to have a broken family that’s why we should make an action in order to avoid it. Maybe other families are experiencing this kind of problem but others may not, so here are some steps we can consider that can help us in building a good family relationship.

• First,  try having an open forum with your family members. By having an open forum, you can tell them what is the problem and what ways can be made to solve it. It is important that all of the members of the family are present in a situation wherein everybody is involved. Try resolving such problems completely so everybody’s side can be expressed. Also, learn to listen and accept the things that will be discussed in the forum.
• Second, respect one another. It is important that, all knows how to respect one another. Never fight back to any of your family members. Remember that elders should be respected and parents should be obeyed.
• Third, give time for your family. Try having bonding moments in order to have stronger relationship with them.
• Fourth, watch the words that come out your mouth. Everything that will be spoken is inevitable in which, the things you have already said can’t be taken back anymore. It is important to be more careful with our words so, no one will be offended or will be hurt in the family.
• Fifth, be honest. Don’t lie to your family. Being honest is difficult for us, but with this your honesty will be tested and the willingness to take the consequences will strengthen the relationship of your family. Telling the truth will set you free. You will gain the trust of your family if you do so.
• Sixth, be calm and speak in a gentle voice. be calm in having your conversation with the family in a gentle pitched voice. Avoid talking to them in high pitched voice because, you won’t be able to understand one another. The tendency with this is you will just keep on exchanging insights in a harsh manner. In calm conversation will maintain peaceful atmosphere and each one will be able to express their sides and feeling free to say it.
• Seventh, try to discipline oneself. Learning to be more patient in everything is a virtue.
• Lastly, strengthen your relationship with GOD. We should always remember that God is the most powerful of all. Pray to him and ask for his guidance and protection. He is the one who can truly help us. Attend the Sunday masses every Sunday with the whole family. Don’t lose hope if you experience problems but instead strengthen your faith with GOD because ” the family that prays together stays together”. Never remove God in your lives because he is at the center of everything that can help all of us in facing our every challenges in our lives.

Remember that if you make an act, you will be able to make a solution to resolve challenges. Be honest and everything will be on its best, which is the overall key to have the relationship stronger. Let God be part of our lives and always ask for his guidance.

–checkeredlover01–

How to establish a personal relationship with God? :)

Getting to know God can be considered as the greatest knowledge of all. Through establishing a relationship with Him, God do offers His friendship freely to those who believe and accept Him as their God. Though you cannot touch nor see Him, you are pretty much sure that there is someone who loves you and cares for you. Your Lord, Father, and at the same time your best friend

First, you should know who God is, like knowing your fellow friends by reading the Holy Bible; familiarize yourself to His teachings, His plans for salvation and His goodness among the rest of the humankind. Next, you should not think that having a relationship with God is a religion. By this, you can offer your friendship to the Lord without any hesitation. God do offers His friendship to those who seeks His friendship as well.

After reading and knowing what the Word of God tells you. The next thing you should do is to believe and trust God. For some instance, you can find situations or experiences in the Bible that are somewhat confusing or out of one’s imagination like miraculous signs, creation of the world, crossing the Red sea, or resurrection of the dead. God did put these things in the Bible for you to realize His power and wonders. He created you. Everything you see is a reflection of His glory. God wants you to realize that He loves you with all His being and He wants to help you walk through life with Him, in everyday life and in your Spirit.

Of course, if you believe that God exists, you should put His will first before anything else, keep His commandments and put them all in your heart. (Matthew 22:35-38) Yes it is quite hard, but God assures you that your life will be in great satisfaction when applying these things. Then, love your fellow men: God says that loving others is to strengthen your friendship with God.

Repent your sins to God and promise not to sin again, give thanks to all what HE has done, and communicate with Him through prayer. Prayer doesn’t require a place or appropriate attire. Through silence, you can talk to God personally like sharing your secrets with your friends, though it is simple to say it to the King of Kings, still God is happy to know that even in our own simple ways, we trust Him as our best friend.

Commit your path to the Lord and ask Him for guidance and the blessing of the Holy Spirit, by having it, you will be a child of God and be with Him in the eternal life. God as Father wants His children to ask what they need. He wants the best for us and grants or answers our prayers in the right time, place and situation.

Lastly, tell God’s word to everyone. All people are creation of God, but not everyone is His child. Tell them who He is and encourage them to have a good relationship with God just like you.

God is always there for us, though problem hinders us sometimes and evil tempts us to do what is against God. He didn’t promise to make life easy, but He promised that He will be in our side always just like a friend. God is there, waiting for you, waiting you to renew your Christian life and be your very own best friend.

WAYS TO LOVE YOUR GIRLFRIEND

Nowadays, girls want to be loved by their boyfriend everyday like it’s their last day on earth. Even a small thing is a big deal for girls. They really like these small things which give them a “blush” or butterflies in their stomach. There are many different ways on how to show your love to your girlfriend.

First, stand up for her. Make her feel important, girls really like that. When you say goodbye, hug her for a moment even if there are people watching. Girls also like guys buying them something personal or special, like gifts. They also love surprises.

Then, take her out with you to movies or dinner dates. Share jokes, as this makes your girlfriend happy. If there is a food she loves, buy it and surprise her. Then, always call her back even if it is just to say I love you. This will show how you love her. Gather her up in your arms and kiss her in the forehead, rather than in the lips as this makes her feel sweet. If she is lagging behind, pick her up in your arms and carry her. Laugh with her in times of your stories or jokes. Always listen to everything she says. Understand them at all times even they are not in the mood. Never tell she’s ugly, fat or anything negative even if you’re kidding. If you start fighting, stop and say “I love you and I’m sorry. Can we stop fighting please?” Then, talk to her. Ask her sincerely if she’s alright or hurt. Then, when she is mad at you, never stop talking to her even she says “go away” or she never wants to talk to you again, and say sorry for what you’ve done wrong. Always ask her what you could do to make her happy. Look her straight to her eyes. This will show how sincere you are. Lastly, love her every second, every minute, every hour, and everyday. Especially, love her at her worst and tell her how much you love her.

In loving someone, you have to know what their likes and dislikes in a relationship. Like boys, girls are also sincere when she loves someone. If boys don’t like to be rejected by someone, girls are afraid to be hurt by their loved one. In these suggestions, your girlfriend will know how much you love her and you’re really happy having her. 🙂